VICTIMS OF LOVE?


Many hearts have crashed severally, while millions are currently crashing because of this four-letter word: LOVE. Heartbreak have become a norm in our society as it appears to have come to stay. Many are drowning in the pit of agony, deception, and betrayal, because of this same word: LOVE. They have been submerged in pain, stabbed with a dagger in their hearts and left to bleed. Many hearts have crashed so hard against their ribs that it echoed in their brains, all because of LOVE. Some people call them "Victims of Love." Is that the truth?

Love is good, love is fun, and love is pleasurable. Love births great things, but when not properly handled, a lover can become a victim.

As pleasurable as love is, it has been misused and abused by many. Many victims have crawled to recovery while the scar remained permanent, but many never recovered. Was love meant to be a source of pain and distress? Is it right to call them victims of love?

The fact that many have abused love does not rule out this fact; love is good and serves as a stream of joy. The fact that someone had it rough does not mean every other person should follow suit. The fact that Mr. A abused and misused your love does not mean Mr. B will do same. These victims are not victims because they gave love a chance, they are victims because their love was abused or misused.

Whoever finds himself/herself in this situation, please plod out of the heartbreak and give love another chance. Just as our faces differ, the same way our journey to recovery may differ. However, some recoveries are not recoveries, they are just heartbreaks covered with makeup, and no matter the layers of makeup, the cracks are not mended, neither does the pain completely vanish. Complete healing is possible, please, don't settle for less. 

In my own opinion, if you find yourself in this situation, you are not a victim of love. Truth be told, your love got abused, but love is not the problem, rather, the problem can be the one you sold your love to, it could also be a negative response to trials and challenges of life. Perhaps you confused lust for love.

Concluding love is not worth it is concluding never to experience true love. Give love another chance but ensure you don't confuse lust for love. Life is too short not to experience true love.

With love, from JS Havilah.


Comments

  1. Oh Yes, no one is a victim of love, We humans most times abuse and misuse " Love"πŸ‘Œ, Most persons dont understand what love is in itself, This is very insightful and validπŸ’―

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  2. Some recoveries are not recoveries, they are just heartbreaks covered with makeup, and no matter the layers of makeup.πŸ—£️πŸ—£️πŸ—£️πŸ—£️

    Life is too short not to experience true love.πŸ€œπŸ€›

    Waooo I'm flabbergasted with the piece.
    I wish this piece is send to every household in Africa and across the continents of the earth.

    More grace to you @ JS Havilah

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  3. "love is not the problem, rather, the problem can be the one you sold your love to". If you find yourself in this situation, stand up pick up your broken pieces and move on there's light after the tunnel. "Give love another chance but ensure you don't confuse lust for love. Life is too short not to experience true love". The message is poignantly delivered JS_havila kudos

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  5. Love is a simple feeling or more than a feeling yet so complex! Yeah never settle for less unless less is the best option
    Nice one πŸ‘✌πŸ’―

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  6. Love is an attribute of a divine personality, but yet misunderstood by many who claim love, until one understand the intense meaning of love, such will either be abuse of love or deprived others of real love. This epistle on love is short and powerful. Please understand what love is all about.
    Cheers to Js_ havila

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  7. Absolutely spot on, JS_Havilah! "The fact that many have abused love does not rule out this fact; love is good and serves as a stream of joy". We're not victims of love, we're victims of misused love.

    Love is the key to healthier relationships, happy homes, and a flourishing society. I believe 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is a beautiful passage that captures the true essence of love. It says "Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes". If we all strive to live by these principles, the world would be a much better place.

    Thanks for sharing this, JS_Havilah. It's a powerful message. Keep up the good work bro!

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  8. This is spot on. Indeed, giving love another chance is a good heart posture towards liberating oneself from the memories of hurt and disappointment. Sometimes, all we need is a step of faith to heal. Amazingly, you realize God has kept the best for you.
    Thank you, JS Havilah

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